Saturday, July 11, 2009

India's dislike of homosexuality is deeply rooted in its culture and religion

India's dislike of homosexuality is deeply rooted in its culture and religion

 

By Will Heaven World Last updated: July 11th, 2009

http://blogs.telegraph.co.uk/news/willheaven/100002923/indias-dislike-of-homosexuality-is-deeply-rooted-in-its-culture-and-religion/

 

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Members of Delhi's gay community had something to celebrate last week. Photo: AFP

Members of Delhi's gay community had something to celebrate last week. Photo: AFP

If the name “Baba Ramdev” means nothing to you, then it is safe to you say you are not an Indian – or a yoga enthusiast. The 43-year-old guru’s international yoga camps - where he preaches a “medicine free world” - have been attended or watched on television by an estimated 85 million people worldwide, making him one of the most recognisable Indian faces on the planet. He is Hinduism’s very own Billy Graham.

But the usually peace-promoting Swami has been causing consternation this week, after he criticised the Indian high court ruling which legalised homosexuality in Delhi. The Telegraph’s Dean Nelson (South Asia editor and blogger) reports:

Baba Ramdev, who counts senior government ministers among his devotees, issued a particularly strong response. In his petition he compared homosexuals to “other anti-social groups”, and said legalisation would have a “negative effect” on the young, while increasing the prevalence of HIV/Aids.

“These are unnatural acts not designed for human beings. The decision of the High Court, if allowed to sustain will have catastrophic effects on the moral fabric of society and will jeopardise the institution of marriage itself. This offends the structure of Indian value system, Indian culture and traditions, as derived from religious scriptures,” it said.

Baba Ramdev’s petition serves to underline India’s deeply conservative attitudes towards homosexuality. But it also reminds us where those conservative attitudes are rooted: Indian values, cultures and traditions - as well as Indian religious scriptures.

In a recent book review, Johann Hari argued that it was missionaries who instilled in the colonial East a Victorian understanding of “sin”. He writes:

In Somerset Maugham’s novel Rain, a missionary complains, “I think [it] was the most difficult part of my work, to instill in the natives a sense of sin.” But they did. They succeeded. They soaked the East in a Western sense of sin, and saw it freeze up into a new frigidity.

Johann isn’t the only one. Amnesty International and the BBC seem convinced that Indian anti-gay attitudes miraculously sprung up 149 years ago. I don’t buy it. Yes, missionaries and British colonialists certainly helped to enshrine these attitudes in Indian law (the infamous “Section 377”, first drafted in 1860), but Hinduism has for centuries treated homosexual men and women with disdain.

The Manava-Dharmasastra (the laws of Manu, Hinduism’s Noah) are one of the earliest examples of Hindu textual doctrine. They describes how if a married woman is found to be a lesbian, she should have her head shaved and have two of her fingers cut off. Bizarrely, she should also “be made to ride on a donkey”. For men who engage in homosexual acts, it’s less barbaric - they simply lose their high caste, and become social outcasts.

Let’s be clear about this: Hindu traditions don’t easily die. As William Dalrymple has brilliantly explored in City of Djinns, gay men of low caste still find themselves living as Hijras in India today. They become part of the so-called “third sex” of transgender men, shunned by society, discriminated against, and often forced into prostitution.

So if homosexuality is going to be legalised all over India - and worrying HIV/AIDS statistics suggest it should be, very quickly - it will have to overcome a multitude of religious obstacles. Most of these will come from Baba Ramdev and some of his BJP-supporting allies. But you know what? Something tells me India’s 150 million Muslims aren’t going to help, either.

 

 

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Friday, July 10, 2009

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To be gay is perfectly natural

Farrukh Dhondy / DNA

Thursday, July 9, 2009 20:40 IST

 

Mumbai: Dr Michael Nazir-Ali has a mixed-up sort of name, like some fiction hero seeking to reconcile religions called Robert Rahim Ram or Amar Akbar Anthony. If he was just Dr Nazir-Ali, he could pass as the leader of some Islamist cult in, say, Lebanon. He is not. He is, a little befuddlingly if you grasp the world through stereotypes, the Church of England's Bishop of Rochester. He was even tipped, before the last appointment was made, to be Archbishop of Canterbury.

He was born a Catholic in Pakistan, 'converted' to Anglicanism and rose in the Ministry through, his friends say, his powerful intellect and unerring faith. I can't judge the strength of his faith, but a statement he made last week puts in slight doubt the modern status of his intellect. After a big Gay Pride event in the UK, he famously said: "The Bible's teaching shows that marriage is between a man and a woman. That is the way to express our sexual nature. We welcome homosexuals, we don't want to exclude people, but want them to repent and be changed."
One knows what he means by 'change', but it is only in the context of his orthodoxy that the word 'repent' can be understood. For what must gay people repent? To whom should they address such repentance?
Various 'psychiatrists' , clinicians and charlatans alike have claimed that homosexuality, the proclivity to be sexually attracted to your own gender, can be 'cured'.
I am convinced that the medical advisors of Michael Jackson believed that black people can be made white and they had a good go at it. That particular 'repentance and change' wasgrotesque and parodic, beginning in mental aberration and ending in misery.
Yes, Michael Jackson did need to repent and change. He needed to repent for his conviction that a black skin and Afro features are ugly and he needed to change his attitude to one of pride in what he was.
Nazir-Ali believes that people who are homosexual have in some sense transgressed the will of God. His Christian religion, its predecessor in the Old Testament and its successor among the Semitic religions, have always construed a connection between faith and sex. The good doctor gives the game away somewhat when he argues against homosexuality from the point of view that it transgresses God's will by going against the nature of man and woman. One can point out that any survey of any population of human beings will demonstrate that God created some people who are by nature and from a very young, even pre-pubic age, attracted to the same sex. Should they transgress against nature, defy the way God made them and obey Nazir-Ali's injunction to express regret for who they are and 'change'?
Our difference of opinion stems from the fact that Nazir-Ali believes that straight man-woman sex is "the way to express our sexual nature."
As every schoolboy knows, there are other ways of expressing one's sexual nature and trial and error may even demonstrate that these don't turn you blind.
There was a time in the 1960s and '70s when a debate raged about human traits being nature or nurture. The angels and libertarians argued for nurture as the foundation of the belief that all human beings are conditioned by their environment, influences and family, consciously or sub-consciously to behave in one way or the other. It was an egalitarian doctrine that pretended that we could all be beautiful, clever and equal. It was applied by the liberals to sexual orientation which was believed to be the result of conditioning and therefore could be reversed or added to making everyone bi-sexual.
There is now enough evidence to demonstrate that homosexuality is not conditioning but as natural and genetic as Michael Jackson's skin colour. Where does it leave Nazir-Ali -- and if bigoted Christians said he should repent and change his name, would he?
The writer is a London-based scriptwriter

 

 

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To be gay is perfectly natural

To be gay is perfectly natural

Farrukh Dhondy / DNA

Thursday, July 9, 2009 20:40 IST

 

Mumbai: Dr Michael Nazir-Ali has a mixed-up sort of name, like some fiction hero seeking to reconcile religions called Robert Rahim Ram or Amar Akbar Anthony. If he was just Dr Nazir-Ali, he could pass as the leader of some Islamist cult in, say, Lebanon. He is not. He is, a little befuddlingly if you grasp the world through stereotypes, the Church of England's Bishop of Rochester. He was even tipped, before the last appointment was made, to be Archbishop of Canterbury.

He was born a Catholic in Pakistan, 'converted' to Anglicanism and rose in the Ministry through, his friends say, his powerful intellect and unerring faith. I can't judge the strength of his faith, but a statement he made last week puts in slight doubt the modern status of his intellect. After a big Gay Pride event in the UK, he famously said: "The Bible's teaching shows that marriage is between a man and a woman. That is the way to express our sexual nature. We welcome homosexuals, we don't want to exclude people, but want them to repent and be changed."

One knows what he means by 'change', but it is only in the context of his orthodoxy that the word 'repent' can be understood. For what must gay people repent? To whom should they address such repentance?

Various 'psychiatrists', clinicians and charlatans alike have claimed that homosexuality, the proclivity to be sexually attracted to your own gender, can be 'cured'.

I am convinced that the medical advisors of Michael Jackson believed that black people can be made white and they had a good go at it. That particular 'repentance and change' wasgrotesque and parodic, beginning in mental aberration and ending in misery.

Yes, Michael Jackson did need to repent and change. He needed to repent for his conviction that a black skin and Afro features are ugly and he needed to change his attitude to one of pride in what he was.

Nazir-Ali believes that people who are homosexual have in some sense transgressed the will of God. His Christian religion, its predecessor in the Old Testament and its successor among the Semitic religions, have always construed a connection between faith and sex. The good doctor gives the game away somewhat when he argues against homosexuality from the point of view that it transgresses God's will by going against the nature of man and woman. One can point out that any survey of any population of human beings will demonstrate that God created some people who are by nature and from a very young, even pre-pubic age, attracted to the same sex. Should they transgress against nature, defy the way God made them and obey Nazir-Ali's injunction to express regret for who they are and 'change'?

Our difference of opinion stems from the fact that Nazir-Ali believes that straight man-woman sex is "the way to express our sexual nature."

As every schoolboy knows, there are other ways of expressing one's sexual nature and trial and error may even demonstrate that these don't turn you blind.

There was a time in the 1960s and '70s when a debate raged about human traits being nature or nurture. The angels and libertarians argued for nurture as the foundation of the belief that all human beings are conditioned by their environment, influences and family, consciously or sub-consciously to behave in one way or the other. It was an egalitarian doctrine that pretended that we could all be beautiful, clever and equal. It was applied by the liberals to sexual orientation which was believed to be the result of conditioning and therefore could be reversed or added to making everyone bi-sexual.
There is now enough evidence to demonstrate that homosexuality is not conditioning but as natural and genetic as Michael Jackson's skin colour. Where does it leave Nazir-Ali -- and if bigoted Christians said he should repent and change his name, would he?

The writer is a London-based scriptwriter

 

 

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Gay law verdict won't change people's attitude'

Gay law verdict won't change people's attitude'

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The Delhi [Images] High Court's ruling decriminalising gay sex was a big step forward for the gay community. Although there is still no social acceptance on this issue, the fact remains that gays are no longer criminals under the law.

Manohar Elavarthi, who runs several NGOs in Bengaluru [Images], has been very vocal on this issue and has been fighting for gay rights for the past ten years. "They ought be treated as human beings and the judgment has decriminalised them," he says. In this interview with rediff.com's Vicky Nanjappa, Manohar explains how the scenario has changed following the verdict and what more needs to be done.

Tell me how things have changed since the verdict of the Delhi High Court?

It is a major step forward.

But the law is only part of it. What about societal aspect of this issue?

Yes I agree that the law is only one part of it. Now it is a question of social tolerance. Just because the law has changed it does not mean that the attitude of the people will change. However, I must add that the court verdict has opened things up for all of us. I only hope that the Supreme Court upholds the verdict.

If the Supreme Court upholds the verdict does that mean that you have won your battle? Or are they any more demands? You must also remember that the courts cannot do anything about social acceptance.

What we want is a complete repeal of the Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code. The IPC is guided by a feudal set up and it has not changed with the times. About social acceptance, we need to work towards it.

Repealing Section 377 could lead to more trouble. It also deals with child abuse and other crimes.

I still say that we need to repeal Section 377. However along with this we need to ensure that laws regarding sexual abuse, be it male or female or children related laws need to be strengthened.

Ours is a country very strongly influenced by religion. Hindu, Muslim and Christian religious leaders have opposed legalising gay sex. What are your thoughts about it?

In Hinduism there is nothing to show that it is anti-homosexuality. There are instances to show that some of the Gods have undergone a sex change. I don't understand how (yoga guru) Baba Ramdev [Images] and the Vishwa Hindu Parishad are opposing this. Where Christianity is concerned, the community is divided in its opinion. There are gay churches and the Vatican too says that gays should not be criminalised. Speaking of Islam, there are few who claim that the Quran says that it is anti homosexuality. Shariat law speaks of punishment for men indulging in homosexuality. However we don't have this law in India and the laws in India does not speak of any punishment.

Does that mean that the next demand would be for legalising gay marriages?

There is a lot more work to be done before we start demanding that gay marriages be legalised. As I said earlier, peoples' opinion does not change just because the law has changed. The law in India is absurd. If a male living with his partner nominates him in the will, the relatives can challenge it.

The gay community has been dubbed as a nuisance by many. Would it not help your cause, if they were more discreet?

Let me speak of Bengaluru which has the largest number of gays from the lower strata of society. Other places like Mumbai [Images] have gays who belong to the upper strata of society who have a social acceptance. When one is from the lower strata they cannot afford their own private space and hence meet up in parks or public areas. If society accepts them,

then this problem would vanish. Keeping this in mind, I started an NGO called The Sangama where these persons can get shelter and meet their lovers.

Everyone speaks only about gays. What about lesbians. Is there any work being done on that.

Being a lesbian has a double stigma. The Sangama in the past ten years has catered to 5,000 men but only about 100 lesbians. We are working hard towards their cause and want to ensure that they too have social acceptance.

Has the attitude of the police changed after this judgment?

Not really. They continue to book cases. Since they cannot invoke Section 377, they book gays under sections which deal with public nuisance. As I said earlier there is a long way to go before the mind set changes.

 

 

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Baba Ramdev is wrong, homosexuality is no disease


Baba Ramdev is wrong, homosexuality is no disease

Dr Devdutt Pattanaik

http://news.rediff.com/column/2009/jul/10/baba-ramdev-is-wrong-homosexuality-is-no-disease.htm

 

Baba Ramdev calls homosexuality a disease. No textbook of psychiatry says so. The World Health Organisation does not say so. And no, not even the scriptures, certainly not the Yoga Sutra, says so. In all probability, this is the Baba's personal opinion. He has a right to his opinion. But can a country's law be based on his opinion?

The problem is that the Baba is a celebrity and in the times we live in, celebrities, especially those with a religious and cultural aura, are seen as voices of authority. We must be careful about such opinions. The practice of using science to justify social prejudices is not something new. Baba Ramdev [Images], with his charm and benign smile, is doing what has been done before.

I remember an old black and white film starring Nutan called Sujata where a respected elder of the family explains the physiological reason for sustaining the practice of untouchability. 'They produce a lethal gas,' he said referring to the Dalits. Because the gentleman had standing, his opinion mattered. Many people agreed with the learned family friend. Not the hero. Not us.

In Hitler's [Images] Germany [Images], hundreds of scientists dressed in white coats earnestly believed and rationalised that Jews were a social pathology, a disease, a gangrene that had to be wiped out to create a perfect, healthy society. This resulted in the Holocaust. It disgusts us today.

In South Africa [Images], there were many scholars who went out of their way to publish articles to rationalise apartheid. They considered the non-White races to be subhuman. An entire social structure was constructed based on this ideology. We must be careful of such rhetoric.

The term 'disease' presupposes a normal health condition. Modern medicine uses this term very cautiously -- the patient must be distressed by it, or it must threaten a person's well-being, before it can be labelled disease. Disease cannot be a term used by a community to brand and weed out people that it is uncomfortable with. An unpopular social group cannot be labelled 'diseased' to justify extermination.

In Sparta, children who were born with congenital abnormalities, say a cleft lip and a malformed limb, were immediately killed. In the Mahabharata [Images], a blind man was not allowed to be king. In Australia [Images], well meaning ladies funded a project to forcibly take children from Aboriginal homes to prevent abnormal/diseased parenting and give them away in adoption to white parents. Would we do that today?

Significantly, even the term 'supernatural' presupposes a normal state of being. So a being with three heads in one culture would be seen as 'deformed' in another; he would be seen as 'supernatural' -- a demon for one, a god for another. How shall we classify deities with three heads and four arms? By whose gaze? By whose lens? By whose measuring scale? Ten thousand years ago, when food was scarce, a fat woman was worshipped as a goddess. Today, we consider her obese and psychologically torment her till she diets, exercises and sheds fat. Is that fair?

Logic and science and authority can be used to justify anything. But ultimately we have to ask -- what is our goalpost? Imagine your daughter is getting married to a nice young man who has homosexual feelings. Until a few weeks ago, he never told the world about it for fear of being branded a criminal.

Now, no thanks to the Baba, he feels he is mad. He does not think so. He does not feel so. But he is afraid to tell the world the truth of his desires. So he has firmly entrenched himself in the closet.

He will tell no one, certainly not his mother, or father, or brother, that he has had sex with men. Not one or two, but dozens, secretly, silently, furtive experiences, with men who like him are afraid to disclose their preferences in public lest they be labelled criminals or diseased.

He will marry your daughter. And your daughter will wonder why, in the privacy of the bedroom, this nice man shuns any attempt to be being intimate. Is she the problem? Her self worth will suffer. The marriage will suffer. Children will be conceived in loveless unions. The man will find it difficult to be faithful and seek comfort elsewhere. And your daughter will wonder what is wrong.

The secret will never be revealed. Everyone in this patriarchal society will blame the daughter. A sham of a marriage -- only because of a law, an intolerant society and Baba's authoritative opinion.

Homosexuality is natural -- it has been documented in animal species. Homosexual feelings are not a choice -- they exist in every human society. Why does it exist? What purpose does it serve? No one really knows the answer. It is like asking, why do humans experience orgasm? Orgasm does not play any role in procreation. Why does it exist (and it is found only in the human species and a few primates)? We can only speculate but we will never know.

The question is -- what are we as a civil human society doing about it? Do we call orgasm -- unnatural or miraculous, God's gift to humanity? What behaviour do we propose? Should we act on homosexual feelings or suppress them, stay celibate and serve society, as the good Baba suggests? Is celibacy a 'good' thing?

In the Mahabharata, sages like Agastya, Kardama and Jaratkaru are reviled by their ancestors for being celibate. 'Repay your debt to your ancestors,' they demanded and forced the rishis to marry and produce children. This desire for children stretched to a point where if one was sterile, as in case of Pandu, one was expected to send one's wife to a stranger to get impregnated by him.

Rishis had to have sex to produce children -- but were expected to be disciplined enough not to get pleasure out of it, to have sex without orgasm, for procreation, nothing else.

What about the wives of the rishis, one may ask. In one conversation with Urvashi, female sexual desire itself is described as a disease to be curtailed with fidelity and marriage. The epic refers to a time when women were free to express their desires followed by a time when they were restrained by laws of fidelity and chastity. Clearly, definition of what constitutes normal changed over time.

The changes continued with the rise of monastic orders like Buddhism (which incidentally popularised the saffron colour). Suddenly monasticism became superior social behaviour. It is so even today, not just in Buddhism but also in Jainism, in Roman Catholicism, and, thanks to the Shankaracharya, even in Hinduism.

While Sufi mystics chose to be celibate, ask a traditional Muslim cleric if celibacy is acceptable social behaviour. In all probability he will say no. He will insist on marriage and children and a householder's life. So much for celebration of celibacy.

What is normal and what is healthy is based on a measuring scale. Different people have different measuring scales. Notions of what is normal and what is not, what is physiological and what is pathological, change with time and place.

In this ever fluid world, how does one separate acceptable social conduct from what is unacceptable? Society, after all, is not a jungle.

A civil society exists to include people to enable them to live lives to their full potential. The underlying principle is empathy. I am sure the Baba has empathy. But he also has a measuring scale by which he considers same sex desires a disease.

One can show him findings from the animal kingdom, one can show him psychiatric text books, one can show him scriptural evidence of inter-sex states -- but he will dismiss it all as 'Western'. His measuring scale does not include everyone.

The Baba will say yoga considers homosexuality a disease. People will believe him. The media will quote him. And it will become about yoga and Western science. But strangely, the notion of disease does not exist in yoga. In yoga, all discussions are about creating harmony. And what is harmonious depends on the environment and goal -- thus, what is good in one situation for one purpose may not be so in another. Thus, the approach to ailment is very different form Western science.

Patanjali in his Yoga Sutra defines yoga as 'chitta vriddhi nirodha' -- the uncrumpling of the crumpled mind. The goal post of yoga is to realise divinity (some would say one's true self) by overpowering prejudice through increased awareness. I suspect, despite all the asanas and the pranayamas, the great yoga master has still some prejudices to uncrumple.

Dr Devdutt Pattanaik www.devdutt.com) is a medical doctor by training and a mythologist by passion. After working in the pharma industry for over 14 years, he is now Chief Belief Officer at the Future Group. A renowned speaker and columnist, he has written over a dozen books on the relevance of sacred stories, symbols and rituals in modern times

 

 

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Gay community turns assertive in workplace

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Gay community turns assertive in workplace
10 Jul 2009, 0530 hrs IST, Dibeyendu Ganguly, ET Bureau

 

Last Thursday, gay men and women across the country were going around their offices with a spring in their step and a grin on their faces. They

were constantly on the Net and on the phone, typing endless messages and talking excitedly about parties. Some even parked themselves in front of the office TV, unabashedly switching from business channels covering the Economic Survey to channels reporting on the Delhi High Court judgement de-criminalising homosexuality.

All this surely posed a bit of a dilemma for their colleagues. Were congratulations in order or should one just let the whole thing pass? Did one have to be a close friend to congratulate someone on matters of sexuality? What exactly does one say under such circumstances anyway?

In some offices, however, there was no dilemma. When Parmesh Shahani, Editorial Director of Verve magazine, entered his office late in the morning, he was greeted with a big hurrah. “It was like India had won the World Cup,” he says. “My straight colleagues were as excited by the judgement as my gay colleagues. It became a way for them to show their support.”

Never has it been harder to stay in the closet in India . After Facebook, Dostana, pride parades and television talk shows, the Delhi High Court judgement is the latest in a recent series of opportunities for gay men and women to declare themselves. “This is such a morale booster,” says Shahani , who authored the book Gay Bombay: Globalisation , Love and (Be)longing in Contemporary India last year. “It quite often happens that everyone around you knows you’re gay but they’re just waiting for you to come out and tell them. Now the process has become easier.”

One might say these things are always easier if you’re lucky enough to be working at a fashion magazine, but Shahani actually began his corporate career at staid old Mahindra & Mahindra (M&M ) before Anuradha Mahindra whisked him away to Verve. He still holds the post of head, vision & opportunities, at the parent company and says, “I’ve been out at M&M since I joined. It’s a very warm, accepting group.”

While those in the closet ponder the possible process through which they could come out — start with the boss? Tell colleagues in the immediate team? Spill the beans to the office gossip and wait for him or her to spread the news? — others are making things simpler for themselves by declaring their sexuality during the recruitment process itself.

When Harish Iyer, 30, joined Shobiz five years ago, he made it a point to scratch out the marital status options in the event management company’s standard recruitment form and write ‘gay.’ “It’s a very important part of who I am and I wanted my boss to know right from the beginning ,” he says.

And then there’s always the option of coming out with a bang through the media. Fifteen years ago, when corporate India offered up no gay role models, Owais Khan was a pioneer when he addressed a press conference along with well known activist Ashok Row Kavi. Khan then worked for Pertech Computers and recalls, “The papers carried my photograph so prominently that even the security guards in my office congratulated me, though they probably didn’t know the context.”


Khan’s colleagues at Pertech found out about his sexuality through the newspapers, but while being interviewed for his next job at Compaq (now Hewlett Packard), he made it a point to raise the subject at the onset. “I was in the media quite often in those days, featuring in every other television programme on gays, so it was important they should know. The HR head just said they were an American company, so it was no big deal.”

Khan has since managed to live the middle class dream of retiring from corporate life while still in his 40s and lives with his boyfriend in Bhopal, the city where he grew up. His last word on being gay in the workplace: “Indian companies don’t want to hear about it. They have a ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ policy. But as the new generation replaces the old, things may change.”

In the wake of the sweeping changes taking place around the world, gay executives may be less willing to be discreet. They might want to be spared having to participate in the usual office banter about attractive members of the opposite sex and they might possibly want to be able to bring their partners to office parties. They would definitely want their companies to provide them the concrete financial benefits that go to their heterosexual counterparts, such as being able to include their partners in leave travel allowance and health insurance plans.

Massive in its scope, the Delhi High judgement has explicitly brought gays within the ambit of anti-discrimination laws, which is likely to have wide ramifications as it is tested in the courts in the years to come.

Vikram, a 24 year old sales executive at the Taj group of hotels, hopes that corporates might now introduce their own rules to protect their openly gay employees from discrimination. “There’s a perception that the glass ceiling that works against us might disappear after this breakthrough judgement,” he says.

But history shows that when a minority becomes more assertive, there’s a backlash from the majority, so discrimination may increase rather than decrease in the years to come. Sunit Mehra, managing partner of placement consulting firm Hunt Partners has already dealt with two cases where high grade candidates were quietly eliminated when the company learnt they were gay.

Interestingly, the recruiting companies were MNCs. “The old timers in Indian companies are not a particularly enlightened lot,” he says. “The senior management quite often consists of Hindutva-types who don’t even like divorcees, let alone gays.”

Pride & prejudice

Can the MNCs then be expected to take a lead in creating a gay-friendly culture in their organisations or will it eventually be up to Indian business houses to bring about change? Most MNCs already have a stated diversity policy that lays down specific targets on the number of gay, lesbian, bi-sexual and transgender (GLBT) employees the company must strive to recruit. Their Indian subsidiaries may now be obliged to fall in line with global practices in the aftermath of the Delhi High Court judgement.


“The GLBT percentage norm just may come into force for India — we’ve seen it happen in other countries ,” says Abhijit Bhaduri, HR Director at Microsoft India. “But then again, India always seems to evolve in a unique way and the process may be different here.”

One of the most pro-active companies in this sphere is IBM India and reports are that some years ago, it sponsored its sole openly gay employee’s trip to the USA to attend a get-together of gay IBM-ers . Annice Paul, the program manager for GLBT and work-life integration at IBM India, says: “Our first commitment globally towards GLBT was made way back in 1983. We believe a diverse organisation fosters excellence.”

This kind of positive discrimination in favour of gays will go a long way in fostering openness in organisations (not to mention the benefit of the creative ideas gay people are famous for bringing to the table), but working against it is the deeply ingrained social stigma associated with homosexuality.

One of the top honchos of the Kantar Group, Balachandran Ramiah is a core member of GayBombay, a social outfit that works with the gay community in Mumbai, organising parties, film festivals, picnics, treks and Sunday meetings, where discussion points include coming out at work, grooming and managing your finances.

Ramiah is one of those who new-gen gays look to for advice and he says: “I know a lot of people who are still mortally terrified of their family and colleagues finding out that they’re gay. I’ve always told them there is no pressure to come out of the closet if you’re not ready for it. It is ultimately an individual decision.”

Now that criminalisation under section 377 of the Indian Penal Code has been revoked, the gay community will have to work towards changing social attitudes and that, as everyone knows, is an excruciatingly slow process.

But historian Saleem Kidwai, co-author of Same Sex Love In India, says that doesn’t take away from the importance of the Delhi High Court judgement. “History tells us there’s always been social disapproval,” he says, “but never to the point of criminalisation as was introduced by the British in India.”

 

 

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