Saturday, June 20, 2009

Gay community fights for dignity

 

 

India

Gay community fights for dignity

Indian transsexuals and lesbians shout slogans during a rally in Bombay in 2004 demanding recognition from the government and attention to their poor health and economic conditions.

Indian transsexuals and lesbians shout slogans during a rally in Bombay in 2004 demanding recognition from the government and attention to their poor health and economic conditions.

Rights groups hope high court's ruling on same-sex relations will end a plague of state-sanctioned homophobia

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Stephanie Nolen

New Delhi — From Friday's Globe and Mail,

The cop strode up to Rajiv M., gave him a shove and demanded to look in his backpack. Rajiv handed it over and the cop pulled out a condom, and asked why Rajiv had it. “I said it was for sex,” Rajiv recalls, a bold if obvious answer that he knew was going to irritate the cop. But he wasn't feeling deferential.

The police officer demanded Rajiv's money, and his cellphone. “I said, ‘Why should I give it to you?'“ The cop grew more menacing: Next he demanded oral sex. Rajiv refused that, too, so the cop hauled the slight 21-year-old to a nearby police station and began the motions of charging him with the crime of homosexuality. When eventually he realized that Rajiv's dad was also a police officer, he let the young man go.

This nasty little piece of attempted extortion took place not in a gay bar, not in an alleyway late at night, but in the middle of a hot spring afternoon in Delhi last year, when Rajiv was standing at a crowded bus stop. “It's India,” Rajiv said with a shrug full of bravado. “So he could do something like this in the open.”

Rajiv, tousle-haired and deliberately camp, told this story a few weeks ago at a Delhi drop-in centre for gay and transgendered men, where he goes a couple times a week. Everyone had a similar story, except most had gorier endings. All the men had been harassed and detained by police who demanded money and, with no trace of irony, also often wanted sex, with the threat of charging and exposing the victim as a homosexual.

The police invoke Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code, the law that criminalizes “carnal intercourse against the order of nature,” including homosexual acts between consenting adults, with a possible sentence of life imprisonment. The law is almost never used for actual prosecutions: Men would have to be caught fully engaged in a sex act to hold up a case. No one has been convicted under 377 in 20 years. But few police officers are interested in actually enforcing the law. They prefer it as a blackmail tool.

Now, however, a fledgling gay community is waiting on tenterhooks for a verdict from the Delhi High Court, expected soon, on a public-interest litigation aimed at decriminalizing same-sex activity – and ending a plague of state-sanctioned homophobia that has led to rape, extortion, suicide and the spread of HIV-AIDS.

If they win – if the law is struck down, and many legal experts believe it will be – it will be a big shift in a still deeply conservative culture. There will be huge ramifications for India – where the courts seem to be out ahead of most of the population – and for the rest of South Asia and the developing world, where only a handful of countries have legally enshrined gay rights.

“Although the jails are not full of people arrested by 377, to say it doesn't have a violent effect in the community is totally false,” said Gautam Bhan, a gay activist in Delhi and co-editor of the anthology Because I Have A Voice: Queer Politics in India .

Gay people are afraid to disclose their sexuality to their doctors, the human-rights commission won't touch issues such as men who lose their jobs, AIDS organizations have been raided for abetting obscenity because they give out condoms to gay men, he said.

“For us as activists, our hands are constantly tied. So to argue that just because this law does not appear in court records and people are not charged is irrelevant … the law is alive and well in the lives of gay people in India.”

The case to change the law was filed by the Naz Foundation, one of India's leading AIDS organizations. Naz was founded by Anjali Gopalan, a journalist and social worker who worked in New York in the 1980s, and lost gay friends at the height of the American HIV epidemic. When she came home to India in the early 1990s, she looked for similar initiatives, where she could volunteer as she had in New York, but there was nothing. There was no discussion of HIV, even though the virus was already circulating widely in communities of truck drivers, sex workers and injecting drug users. And there were no data on the number of gay men and incidence of HIV, although the experience of countries such as South Africa showed clearly that communities of gay men were affected early and hard in the developing world, too.

So in 1994, Ms. Gopalan started by persuading a couple of men she knew to show her the cruising zones of Delhi. At first, she was met with hostility: “The older queens in the park were saying, ‘She's just come from America and she doesn't want you to have sex with us.' And I was saying, ‘Have sex with anything that moves, but use a condom.'“ Soon she persuaded a doctor friend to come with her, and he began treating sexually transmitted infections and giving HIV tests behind the bushes. She noticed one big difference from New York: “Here all the gay men I was dealing with were married.”

Married to women. So sacred is marriage in Indian society that many men who were attracted to men found it far easier in terms of family and social pressure, and often, more acceptable on their own terms, to marry a woman, and produce a couple of obligatory children, but satisfy sexual desires with long-term lovers or men they met in parks.

It soon became clear to Ms. Gopalan that if many of these men were testing HIV-positive, a lot of their oblivious wives would, too – if they had any idea or access to testing. Which they didn't. “And I got really mad that women had to go through that.”

By the late 1990s, Naz had grown into a small charity that offered a hospice for the dying, a drop-in clinic and counselling services.

But there was a problem: The organization's outreach workers kept getting arrested while giving out condoms or sharing information on HIV with men cruising in parks or public toilets. The police charged them with obscenity and abetting an illegal act. They were rarely prosecuted, but their would-be clients were frightened off.

Meanwhile, counsellors on the phone lines were consoling despairing, often suicidal gay men and women who were being forced into marriages or shunned by their families. “We do lots of work with young gay people, telling them it's natural and it's not wrong, and in the end, they say, ‘If it's so normal and natural, why is there this law?'“ Ms. Gopalan said. “Or we work with their families, and in the end, they say, ‘Okay, I can accept it for my son, but if it's so normal why is there this law?'“ Ms. Gopalan, as practical as she is fierce, decided it was ridiculous that the country's anti-HIV efforts were being hamstrung by a 150-year-old British law. So she enlisted some human-rights lawyers, and they went to court.

Naz was the initial plaintiff, but as the case dragged on, it emboldened the gay and lesbian community, and a new coalition of gay groups and human-rights organizations, called Voices Against 377, joined the AIDS organization in the case. That group filed a second petition, specifically asking that the law be changed on the basis of the equal rights of gay, lesbian and transgendered citizens. “It was very important to us politically that we expand the ambit of the case to talk about rights,” said Mr. Bhan, who is part of the group.

The government countered that homosexuality is inherently “against Indian culture” and that the majority of Indians opposed legalization.

“Unnatural carnal intercourse is abhorrent to civilized society – even if consent is given, that is immaterial,” said Solicitor-General P.P. Malhotra. “Our moral values require one man and one woman, his wife … law is what society feels to be immoral.”

He also argued that legalizing homosexuality would lead to more gay sex and so more transmission of HIV and that the law was necessary to protect men from AIDS.

Mr. Bhan and his compatriots countered that, in fact, homosexual love has a history in India going back to ancient times, citing epic poems and loving couples chiselled into temple sculptures. They also ran a huge open letter in daily newspapers, enlisting prominent personalities to support decriminalization, pillars of society including retired army generals, a former UN under-secretary-general, Nobel Prize winning economist Amartya Sen and even some veterans of the freedom struggle against Britain. “We sensed the change of mood, especially among the young. We wanted to say, ‘You can't just easily say people won't accept it.' It's not true any more,” Mr. Bhan said.

It complicates the legal battle that the law currently covers all “unnatural sexual acts,” and is the only legislation pertaining to child sexual abuse, so the gay groups cannot ask that it be repealed all together.

In the course of the trial, the pro-decriminalization forces received backing from an unexpected quarter, the government's own Health Minister, Anbumani Ramadoss. Dr. Ramadoss said legalization would encourage gay men to access HIV-prevention services and stop impeding health workers and social workers who tried to assist them. But he also provided gentle chiding to his fellow citizens to get with the times. “The world over, gays are being accepted,” he told Indian journalists in September of 2008. “We need to move on.”

Questions and comments from the judges during the hearings, and the lack of any particular public outcry about the case, have left the advocates of decriminalization optimistic. “I think this verdict is going to be good news, if it ever comes,” Ms. Gopalan said.

While public discussion of any sexuality remains constrained in India, and homosexuality is particularly taboo, it is also true that the past few years have seen a gradual thaw in public attitudes. Bollywood movies have gay characters and even plot lines these days; ever-increasing access to the Internet is giving thousands of once-isolated young people access to chat rooms and dating services. It bears noting that this burgeoning gay movement is an almost entirely urban phenomenon, while three-quarters of Indians live in rural areas. But last year, Delhi, Mumbai and Bangalore held their first ever gay pride parades, with about 900 people marching in each city while a largely supportive crowd looked on.

And yet the social pressure on gay people remains intense. Many Indian gay websites, for example, have sections for people seeking a “marriage of convenience” – gay men and lesbians seeking to marry each other, so their parents can be placated and they can pursue their real romantic lives without harassment. “I am 27-year-old gay Indian female in Mohali in Punjab looking for Gay Indian Guy for marriage of convenience,” writes Preeti S. (As with Rajiv, her last name is being withheld because she has not discussed her sexual orientation with her family.) “I have to do this cuz of my family. I am preferably looking for guy who is settled abroad so that we can lead a more free life and there is less intrusion of relatives and society.”

At the drop-in centre, which is run by Naz, a gorgeous young kothi (a female-identified, cross-dressing gay man) who goes by Katrina – and charms the boys with elaborate Bollywood dance numbers he performs in spangley outfits, caramel curls flying – described how his mother had twice had him committed to a mental hospital. “That was hell – it was like a graveyard,” he said. “She tells me, ‘Just kill yourself.' But I've never done anything wrong. This is who I am, God just made me that way.”

He, too, has a police brutality story – three police officers stopped him in the road a few months ago, when he was dressed in women's clothes and heavy makeup. They forced him to strip, he said; when they saw his penis, they beat him nearly unconscious.

Gay and transgendered Indians, especially those who belong to the visible hijira (transgendered) and kothi communities, and femme and proud boys like Rajiv, are particular targets for police brutality carried out in the name of 377. An elite of educated, English-speaking gay men and lesbians moves relatively freely, meeting on the Internet or at dedicated queer nights at upscale bars; their money insulates them from the threat of police harassment.

Even lesbians who aren't wealthy have a somewhat easier time than men such as Rajiv. Their community is lower profile, and women, even those in intimate “friendships” with other women, attract less attention. But Mr. Bhan noted that in 2007 alone, his group documented 42 suicides by lesbians who identified their sexuality as the reason they took their lives. A new lesbian support hot-line opened by a Chennai gay group received 45 calls the first day they turned on their phone, a few months back – although they were not meant to open for another 10 days. Many were from young women who had recently found a name for their gay identity, but were being forced into marriages by their parents.

Rajiv and his friends, who veer between startling confidence in their identities and sudden moments of visible fear, chafe in a life in which they can only be themselves once a week in a dingy basement. “What I want is dignity,” Rajiv said. “And I want a successful relationship. That's why I'm fighting with my parents, and against 377, against the government.”

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Friday, June 19, 2009

Invitation to a Music Concert in Mumbai

 

Rattle & Hum Music Society Nagaland in Partnership with The Rolling Stone magazine presents the Handshake Concert on occasion ‘The World Music Day’ June 21, 2009. The Venue is St.Andrew’s  Auditorium, Bandra , 7 PM onwards. And entry to the concert is free.

 

The Concert will feature one of the most well known musicians of the country: Pt. Vishwa Mohan Bhatt (Grammy Award Winner). Sharing the stage with him will be a host of folk singers from Nagaland and also few other musicians from Mumbai and other parts of the country.

 

All are cordially invited.

 

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Thursday, June 18, 2009

Gay & living with parents - Good As You meeting notes

 

 

Gay & living with parents - Good As You meeting notes

March 26th, 2009 by goodasyou

1. The Drivers in the Parent- Child relationship:

-          What do we feel towards our parents - Love? Fear? Respect?

How we relate to our parents (and the extended family) color our expectations and experiences. Where we mostly relate to them in a fear-respect manner first, we tend to always keep a reverential basis to the relationship. Where love and a feeling of even friendship is really the driving force, then we might choose to be over-protective of them or take them in our stride.

 

For some of us, we really look to our parents to validate our lives and want them to fully recognize and celebrate our lives. For others, there is no such need, and they are content to keep the distance at an arm’s length, or even further. In the extreme, just as there are parents who disown gay kids, there could be gay kids who disown their parents.

-          Are we on an adult-adult relationship? Or is it still parent-child?

With some, the relationship with parents always remains in a parent-child mode, and they do not really relate to the person as an adult. This is reflected in avoidance of relationship/ sexuality topics and other ’sensitive’ discussions. Where it gets to an adult-adult relationship, parents discuss things fairly openly with their kids, including such conversations as ‘who does what to whom and how’, lesbian rape etc.

-          Other circumstances

Extended family, current family situations etc. are crucial. Being the only son (or only child) adds a major dimension in terms of ‘family continuity’. Changes to parents’ lifestyle (viz. separation, re-marriage etc) also change how they relate to a gay child.

 

2. The Discovery process:

-          How do the parents come to know?

In your face: Where the parents are told ‘I am gay. This is how it is. Deal with it’

Gradual letting in: Through a slow process of familiarization and elaboration

Discovery as a kid: For some an early incident where one gets caught in a sexual act, or talks to a parent after such an act out of fear of disease etc

Discovery thru net: Based on explicit content on a PC, personal journals, magazines or even online on a blog or a website.

-          How do the parents react?

Most go through regular cycles of showck-denial-depression-understanding-acceptance-approval-celebration, quite a few get held back at some stage or the other. Where there has been a discovery as a kid, some parents have been especially astute and talked to the child very gently, reassuringly and yet being quite specific and non-judgmental. The general consensus was that such a conversation helps, rather than a ‘Don’t do that, (unless you are) gay’ kind of reaction which might induce guilt or repression

 

In many cases, parents come around to just wanting the gay child to be happy - irrespective of the gender of a partner, and worry more about their general happiness. Some parents do take a far more active interest and want to learn more and network with other parents. ( If your parent wants to meet other parents of gay people, please write in. We could have them join in speciifc Good As You sessions also if people are Ok with that)

 

3. The Dependency factor:

-          What if we are financially/ emotionally dependent?

When one is a student, especially of medicine or other such long-term courses, one tends to be far more dependent on parents and that forces you to wonder if coming out is worth it, and one tends to balance gay life completely outside the house as it were.

-          What if parents are dependent?

Where parents are getting older, or not keeping well or just need you around-this especially if you are the only kid and have enjoyed an especially close relationship with mom/ dad.

-          Comfort zones

Sometimes, it is really not about any dependency really, and one has just got so much into a comfort zone with parents, with a great understanding of how to live with one another – how the errands get split, what TV shows to watch and all that. That in itself is very precious, and could be cause to say one will keep the gay side of life outside anyway

 

4. Obligation vs. Responsibility vs. Gratitude factor

 

What is obligation? What is gratitude? Did our parents have us for their happiness? Is their love our right? Is our ‘being there for them’ an obligation? A responsibility? A must-do? A privilege that our parents earn? An act of love?

 

5. The life-style choices:

Not very different from hetero-sexual arrangements, really speaking

-          Scenario 1: Parents comfortable with sexuality, visit/ live with self & BF (permanent/ current)

-          Scenario 2: Parents comfortable with sexuality, live in same town as self & BF(permanent/ current)

-          Scenario 3: Parents comfortable with sexuality, live elsewhere. Visit sometime. Not OK with BF, who lives separately

-          Scenario 4: Parents (un)comfortable with sexuality, live with self. BF lives separately. Self & BF have an understanding

-          Scenario 5: Parents uncomfortable with sexuality, live with self. Gay life not predictable

-          Scenario 6: Parents uncomfortable. Live apart. Contact sporadic

 

5. The Deciding factors:

-          The Happiness factor: Decide on what makes self happy. Keep that in focus

-          The Responsibility factor: Decide on what are other non-negotiable priorities w.r.t family

-          The Guilt factor: Decide on what compromises work for you; but try not do something just out of guilt. Could boomerang later.

-          The ‘My decision – no regrets’

Finally, there is really no one true answer. There are so many of us with perfectly content relationships with both family and gay side, and they are not all similar – any scenario above could be happy. What matters really is that one takes the decision and makes the moves, and talks to friends to vent/ learn as and when needed J

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Re: NEVER READY FOR IT

I think 377 may be removed any time now, may be next month when the courts open after summer vacations or a little later. The hearing in the Delhi High Court was over in October, 2008 and only verdict has to come. The proceedings and the attitude of the judges during the last 4-5 days of hearing made it clear that 377 will be removed. They only have to see that there is no law and order problem the day verdict comes. They will have to make some police arrangement before verdict is announced. The court might inform the government in advance to make suitable arrangements.

 

However, I do not think that removal of 377 is going to help Indian gay community in any way. Indian homosexuals will not be able to surface out and start living with their partners openly after 377 is removed. Homosexuality will keep operating as a hidden and underground sub-culture in India as usual. In fact, 377 has already been removed in practice. The government of India is not enforcing it now. They allow flavoured condoms meant for oral sex to be manufactured and marketed openly, they install condom vending machines in military barracks for soldiers who have anal sex with each other since they remain away from their wives for prolonged periods, all gay sites remain openly accessible in India, gay parties openly allowed in metros, gay men remaining openly involved in sexual activities in city parks in Mumbai when cops turning a blind eye to them and so on. IPC 377 now exists on paper only.  Whether we remove it from paper or not is immaterial. The Sri Lankan Government has even said to its gay community that we are not enforcing law banning anal sex, so they can have anal sex if they want.

 

What we want is the acceptability of homosexuality in India which will come through education. The government must publicize the findings of medical science about homosexuality in India through newspapers, radio, TV etc. and other means of mass communication. The government must heavily advertise that homosexuality is not a mental disorder and it is a normal human behaviour. The Government should also launch special drives so that married gay men come out in the open and take divorce from their wives. Making same-sex Marriage Law is the first step in creating the acceptability of homosexuals in the society. Nothing less than this will work. Nepal's Supreme Court has already ordered Nepal Government to make Same-sex Marriage Law within 6 months. Since 6 months are already over, somebody might now file a contempt petition in the court to remind the Government to make the law. Nepal is presently going on under political turmoil; otherwise the law might already have been made by now.

  

Removal of 377 only helps in establishing the existence of male homosexuals in the society. The Government of India has already accepted our existence but a common man has yet to do so. Previously, the Government of India was also not recognising the existence of homosexuality in the society. However, after AIDS came into picture, the government had to do it. Now, if not all then at least those government documents and reports which are prepared in connection of HIV and AIDS prevention work always use two words together - prostitutes and homosexuals (they have coined the word 'MSM' for homosexuals but they never use the words 'MSW' or 'WSM' for themselves). It shows that the government of India has accepted the existence of homosexuals on earth. However, a common man is yet to do so categorically. So far a common man on the street thinks that there are some men who take young boys to deserted spots and they rape them. A common man also knows that there are some men in the society who want that another man performs anal sex on them. A common man thinks that these two types of men are known as homosexuals and they suffer from a mental disease. A common man also thinks that the number of such homosexuals is very small in the society, just one in lakhs. However, all this information in informally available to a common man. He has picked it up from no formal source.

 

When we remove 377, a common man will come to know in a formal way about the existence of a class named 'MSM' in the society, just like the government has accepted it now. However, besides establishing the existence of MSM's, nothing more will be accomplished by removal of 377. A common man will continue hating homosexuals, as he does now. When we remove 377 as a measure to prevent AIDS, the common man on the street will think that the govt. had to do this since homosexuals are an unavoidable evil and we shall have to tolerate them since we cannot eliminate them. Homosexuality will be thought like prostitution. We are also on our path to legalise prostitution since it has been found that prostitution cannot be stopped by any means so it is better to legalise it. Prostitution has been accepted by the society as an unavoidable evil. By removal of 377, we will declare homosexuality also as an unavoidable evil. In fact, the Planning Commission has already recommended to the Government of India in its report that both prostitution and homosexuality be legalised to prevent AIDS. I consider it as an ultimate insult to me that I am equated with a prostitute simply because I have a desire to live with a man rather than a woman in my house. But I am helpless.

 

A common man's hate for homosexuals may increase by the removal of 377. He may think that while AIDS is a menace for everybody, it has proved to be a boon for homosexuals. Please also keep in mind that removal of 377 will also permit anal sex between a man and a woman. Since most heterosexual men consider such anal sex as a severe perversion, the people will simply keep on wondering why the government has removed 377 which was a perfect way to stop pervert acts.

 

Further, removal of 377 is no help in establishing the existence of lesbians in the society.

 

Removal of 377 is also no help in telling a common people that the number of homosexuals and bisexuals combined together is not as small as he thinks; on the contrary, it is about 10% of the whole population.

 

Removal of 377 is no help in telling the people that homosexuality is not a synonym of anal sex. It will fail to tell a common man that homosexuality is a complete way of life and not just anal sex. It also fails in telling the society that there is a large section of male homosexuals which does not like to indulge in anal sex. Our aim is to tell the people that just like there are some heterosexuals who want to live with one partner under the same roof throughout their life and want to take care of each other in their thick and thin and want to share with their partner everything which they have, similarly there are many homosexuals also who want to do just this. Our aim is to tell the society that just like there are some heterosexuals who want that their relation with their partner is recognized by the society and the government of the country in which they live and they get legal, financial, and medical rights of marriage, similarly there are some homosexuals who also want all these same things. Finally, as homosexuals, we want to come out of our closet and we want to declare that we feel pain when we are forced to pretend to be heterosexuals all our lives and when our secret that we are born with an alternate sexual orientation just burns with us in our pyre. Removal of 377 is no help in this.

 

I am against removal of 377 unless it is also accompanied by making of Same-sex Marriage Law which I consider is the first step in creating our acceptability in the society. I believe that just a plain removal of 377 is an insult to us, it equates us to prostitutes and it will do more harm than good to us.


Nothing much is going to happen after 377 goes. There are some gay organizations in India who are promoting and distributing condoms among gay men. Presently, the organizations have to keep a low profile in the sense that they cannot put signboard in front of their offices. After 377 is removed, they will come out openly and seek donations from the government, condom manufactureres, people involved in AIDS prevention work and some other sources by publishing advertisements in newspapers. 90% of these donations they will pocket and remaining 10% they will actually use for condom distribution.
 
Needless to say that the gay men will come to these organizations under deep secracy to receive condoms. They will never tell their parents or wives that they are gay and they are going to a AIDS prevention camp, unlike the way a normal husband-wife go to a family planning camp.
 
During gay pride parades in Delhi, Bangalore, Kolkata etc., some of the participants wear face masks. Is that the distiny and is that the fate of gay community which we are envisaging?
 
Prashant

--- On Mon, 15/6/09, moderator@gaybombay.in <moderator@gaybombay.in> wrote:

 

NEVER READY FOR IT

In India, the State now speaks in many tongues on homosexuality. Different ministries have come up with bafflingly different positions on the matter. So far, on the 'reading down' of Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code (the archaic law that ends up criminalizing adult consensual homosexuality in India), the courts have sounded progressive, the health ministry encouraging, and the law and home ministries regressive. The regressiveness is alarming, not only because of the astonishing ignorance, indeed blindness, of its "India is not ready for it yet" position, but also because of the schizophrenic divide regarding sex and sexuality within the State that shows up when the health ministry's view is compared with those of the law and home ministries. Yet the health ministry's 'positive' stance is founded on fear and caution rather than principled thinking — on the same sort of logic that underlies action against swine 'flu or SARS: if the law is not changed, then it will be difficult to stop people from dying of AIDS. So when the law minister makes vague public noises to the effect that some bits of the IPC "may be" outdated, and Section 377 "could be" one of these bits, then it really does not amount to very much. But by now, hanging on to every word that the State lets fall on the matter, and then trying to make sense of them, have become part of the entire struggle for legal and social change that the movement against Section 377 has become in India.

This movement remains largely confined, though, to those who are victimized by Section 377 — that is, the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgendered community, mostly among urban (and sometimes provincial), middle-class Indians. Annual parades and candle-lit vigils, again mostly in the big cities and often (though not always) associated with HIV/AIDS, are when this community is given some visibility in the media, although of a stereotypically colourful kind. Or when big-budget Bollywood indulges in a bit of innocuous same-sex fun, people talk about it for a while, usually with light-hearted titters, as if chatting about exotic lifestyle options. But with food, weddings, cricket and elections being the nation's chief obsessions, the closet rather than the courtroom is where the matter is invariably laid to rest.

Why does it remain virtually impossible to figure out what the nation's leaders think about men having sex with men, or women having sex with women? Does the Rashtrapati Bhavan or the Prime Minister's Office have a view on homosexuality? Would the Gandhis, particularly the younger ones, speak up for it? What does Agatha Sangma, the Lok Sabha's youngest minister, think about it? How does Buddhadeb Bhattacharjee feel about the sexual orientation of his beloved Proust? All these right-thinking people would not think twice before speaking up against untouchability, apartheid or female circumcision. So why this silence, or slipperiness, about this other, universally acknowledged, form of discrimination?

 



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Wednesday, June 17, 2009

India woos gay tourists

Rajesh Ahuja, Hindustan Times

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New Delhi, June 17, 2009

First Published: 14:00 IST(17/6/2009)

Last Updated: 15:42 IST(17/6/2009)

India woos gay tourists

The already throbbing closet may just break open with this piece of news. Enthused by the success of gay nights at pubs, the Queer Pride Parade  last year and thematic art festivals across the country, tour agencies are offering custom-made tours for the ultimate gay travel experience.

Indjapink puts together packages for gay men only. The agency, based in Lajpat Nagar, organises gay tours for singles and couples throughout the year. “We have at least 4-5 foreign clients every month, though domestic clients are relatively few,” says the director of the company, identifying himself only as ‘Malhotra’. The firm is taking a gay group to the Himalayas in August.

Prateek Hira of Tornos, a Lucknow-based travel agency, organised trips for 50-60 gay Aussie tourists recently. He points out that more homosexual men than lesbians visit India.

The tours, usually lasting close to a week or longer, ensure respectful travel for these tourists, who would otherwise face awkward situations among straight people. Gay-friendly boutique hotels and nightspots are specially chosen.

“Besides arranging for gay-friendly drivers and hotels at the places they wish to visit, we pack their itinerary with exciting activities,” says Prakash George Mathen, who runs Travellers Bank. “Some clients want gay parties to be organised during the trip, so that they can meet the local gay community. So we touch base with gay rights activists in the area to organise such a meeting to exchange experiences.” Activities also include spa therapies, yoga sessions and cocktail dinners.

Syed, manager of Online Car Rental India, another company wooing the ‘pink dollar’ — as gay spend is called — tells us about the preferred destinations. “Rajasthan, Goa and Kerala are a hit among foreigners.” Prakash adds, “They usually want secluded beaches and private spaces like houseboats and forest accommodation.” The staff at these places are trained not to intrude on the guests’ privacy.

All this comes at pretty affordable prices. According to Malhotra, a gay tour to, say, Ranikhet or Pangot (near Nainital) costs Rs 7,500-8,000 per night for a couple. Prakash recently organised a week-long getaway for a gay couple at Rs 30,000. At least, there is no premium charged for one’s sexuality.

A gay day in Delhi
Breakfast at a gay-friendly boutique hotel (name withheld on request), followed by a spa treatment

Shopping at flea markets like Sarojini Nagar or high-end fashion stores at Emporio and Select City Walk malls, depending on the tourists’ taste

Shopping could be followed by a rickshaw ride in Old Delhi and visiting a few heritage sites around the Capital

Fashion tours, organised by Indjapink, have fashion advisers updating the tourists about the latest trends in India. This could be followed by a makeover

The evenings are for socialising — whether at a private home where the organisers help the tourists meet the local gay community over curry and drinks, or in gay-friendly clubs like Pegs n Pints, Monk (Gurgaon), G Lounge (Noida) and Polka - The Club RA

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Group: Gay bias killings in US highest since 1999

Group: Gay bias killings in US highest since 1999

By MARCUS FRANKLIN – 18 hours ago

NEW YORK (AP) — A national advocacy group says the number of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people killed in bias-motivated incidents increased by 28 percent in 2008 compared to 2007.

The National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs released its report Tuesday. It says last year's 29 killings is the highest it has recorded since 1999. It documented the same number of slayings then.

The New York-based coalition says the overall number of victims who reported gay bias violence in 2008 increased by 2 percent.

The coalition says its figures are more accurate than those from law enforcement agencies. As an example, the group says the FBI doesn't record bias crimes against transgender people because gender identity isn't covered by federal hate-crime law

 

 

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Staying with a gay friend?

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The humour of the original play was intact, and the characters did not come across as effeminate, as in Hindi films.

The play in progress

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The play in progress



Theatre director Sameer Thakur’s Indian take on Doric Wilson’s 1979 play A Perfect Relationship is an intelligent comment on gay relationships in contemporary India.

Adapted by Thakur of Cathaa Yatra, a Delhi-based community theatre company, A Perfect Relationship was staged to a housefull American Centre in the capital recently.

The play, which has won acclaim since it was staged in the capital in 2008, has been recommended for the Dublin International Theatre Festival in 2009 and has entered the archives of New York’s National Museum of Performing Arts. It was first performed in New York in 1980.

Reminisces Doric in one his interviews about the making of the A Perfect Relationship: “I was interviewing a potential roommate to share my Bedford Street apartment. When I asked him why he wanted to move, he answered, ‘You could write a play about what happened to me.’ It seems his lover brought home a trick (another man) and they decided to live together. So they kicked him out, but the trick only wanted the apartment so it was only a matter of time until the trick also evicted the lover. Three weeks later the first draft of A Perfect Relationship was finished (but the interviewee didn’t move in).”

For Thakur, the scenario of the queer New York City of the 1970s becomes the humorous story of Sunny and Rehaan, two flatmates, who are great friends, but not lovers as they insist. The roommates, who spend most of their time gossiping and downing shots of vodka, suddenly find their lives turning upside down when Ashwin, a ‘gay’ friend decides to take over their lovely flat in the middle of south Delhi.

It leads to hilarious twists of feigned love, betrayal and cunning deceit. Manpreet, aka Mandy, the self-styled landlady adds to the confusion. She makes a living sub-letting small flats where she walks in anytime with her boyfriend of the day. Mandy is loud, crass with her Punjabi-laced English, but good at heart. The play ends with Ashwin getting what he wants – the flat and good guys losing out. But there’s hope in the end.

The strength of the play lies in its insights into the 21st century gay world of Delhi. The men have their insecurities – both in bed and outside – and are vulnerable to betrayals.

This alternative universe – like the straight world – is peopled by double-crossers who would do anything for money; even two-timing with a girl for small favours. It comments on closet relationships of the affluent gay men. Ashwin is the rich guy, who wants to set up his love interest in Sunny and Rehaan’s flat to carry on with his ‘personal life’. “Even my wife does not know about my personal life,” he proclaims.

“We put it up for production in 2008 in Delhi and in NCR. Most people in the audience said it was a courageous effort because of the social context. We let the humour remain as it is without deviating from the original play. The play has references to the current gay rights movement in India,” said Sameer, adding, “The audience was not laughing at the gay characters because they were natural.”

 

 

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